I'm going to start a new series of posts with positive messages, for anyone who might need them. I feel it's important to spread positivity, especially when life can get pretty rough!
If you're someone who struggles with 'ordinary' things such as taking showers regularly, eating regular meals, brushing your hair, etc, you're not weird. You're not 'just lazy'. You're not the only one struggling with this - you're not alone!
If you managed to make yourself do the things you normally struggle with, I'm so proud of you! I know how difficult it can be to do that. Well done :)
If you tried to make yourself do something you usually struggle with but didn't succeed, I'm still proud of you! You tried and that's what matters! Trying is the first step towards doing the thing! You're making progress, which is wonderful.
If you had managed to start brushing your teeth/hair regularly, getting better sleep, showering regularly, etc, but have now relapsed, don't feel bad about it! I'm in the same position myself right now with sleeping, so you're not alone! It doesn't mean you've failed. If you can do it once, you can do it again! :)
Please remember to make sure you've eaten enough, that you've drank enough water and that you've taken any medications you need :) Thank you for reading and goodbye until next time! ~Jay
Friday, 9 February 2018
Tuesday, 2 January 2018
Help End Hunger For Free!
If you want to help end world hunger, but don't have enough money to contribute yourself, there's a brilliant alternative. If you go to freerice.com, then each time you answer a question correctly you will be donating 10 grains of rice. This may not seem like a lot, but it quickly adds up! In less than half an hour, I managed to answer 347 questions and donate 3,470 grains of rice!
Not only does this site help feed people, but it also helps you! There's a range of subjects to pick from, including multiplication, grammar and language learning. Whichever one you pick, the questions will test what you know and teach you what you don't already know. If you're studying mathematics or a subject involving maths, I highly suggest spending lots of time doing the multiplication questions. After a while you will learn off by heart the times table. This is extremely useful in maths because you'll spend less time working out multiplications, giving you more time for more complicated parts of a question.
Please give this game a try! And if you want a challenge, try and beat my score of 3,470! Comment below or contact me if you beat my score and I'll give you a shout-out! :)
Thank you for reading, I hope you have hours of fun playing this game and goodbye until next time! ~Jay
Not only does this site help feed people, but it also helps you! There's a range of subjects to pick from, including multiplication, grammar and language learning. Whichever one you pick, the questions will test what you know and teach you what you don't already know. If you're studying mathematics or a subject involving maths, I highly suggest spending lots of time doing the multiplication questions. After a while you will learn off by heart the times table. This is extremely useful in maths because you'll spend less time working out multiplications, giving you more time for more complicated parts of a question.
Please give this game a try! And if you want a challenge, try and beat my score of 3,470! Comment below or contact me if you beat my score and I'll give you a shout-out! :)
Thank you for reading, I hope you have hours of fun playing this game and goodbye until next time! ~Jay
Monday, 1 January 2018
2017's Over
Happy New Year! It's 2018!
2017 has been a rather wild year! I removed a toxic person from my life, sat my GCSEs, had an amazing summer and started A Levels! This year has definitely been better than last year. I've become quite a lot happier and I've gotten closer to my friends.
I have a feeling that 2018 won't be so much of a fun time and that it's gonna be a lot more difficult. However I'm sure there's going to be some fun and memorable moments. I can get through this year! I've gotten through 16 other years, I can get through this one!
This year I'm going to continue with self-care and improving my mental health as far as I can. It's going to be hard, but I can do it!
Thank you for reading, I hope your year goes better than the last, and goodbye until next time! ~Jay
2017 has been a rather wild year! I removed a toxic person from my life, sat my GCSEs, had an amazing summer and started A Levels! This year has definitely been better than last year. I've become quite a lot happier and I've gotten closer to my friends.
I have a feeling that 2018 won't be so much of a fun time and that it's gonna be a lot more difficult. However I'm sure there's going to be some fun and memorable moments. I can get through this year! I've gotten through 16 other years, I can get through this one!
This year I'm going to continue with self-care and improving my mental health as far as I can. It's going to be hard, but I can do it!
Thank you for reading, I hope your year goes better than the last, and goodbye until next time! ~Jay
Saturday, 30 December 2017
Apologies
Sorry for the lack of posts recently! I just don't know what to post. I should've called my blog Forever De-JAY-ed because my posts seem to be forever delayed! I have several drafts in the works so hopefully I'll get something up soon!
Monday, 27 November 2017
It's Getting Colder...
I love the winter. It's good for photography, the grass begins to glisten every morning, and it gives me an excuse to wear my National Geographic fleece jackets! To quote Manic Street Preachers, "We love the winter; it brings us closer together."
However, there is a downside to winter. PAIN. My bones ache when it gets colder and it makes everything slower. I take much longer to write and to cycle in the mornings.
And the hands...
Ugh...
At least this year I have gloves to keep at least a little feeling in my hands!
It seems as if I complain that it's too hot in the summer, then complain that it's too cold during winter!
Another downside is that I can't go on evening bike rides as it's already dark by the time I used to go on bike rides! At least I can still ride to and from school everyday. Also, I still go on bike rides at the weekend!
Thank you for reading and I hope you get through winter okay! Goodbye until next time! ~Jay
However, there is a downside to winter. PAIN. My bones ache when it gets colder and it makes everything slower. I take much longer to write and to cycle in the mornings.
And the hands...
Ugh...
At least this year I have gloves to keep at least a little feeling in my hands!
It seems as if I complain that it's too hot in the summer, then complain that it's too cold during winter!
Another downside is that I can't go on evening bike rides as it's already dark by the time I used to go on bike rides! At least I can still ride to and from school everyday. Also, I still go on bike rides at the weekend!
Thank you for reading and I hope you get through winter okay! Goodbye until next time! ~Jay
Friday, 3 November 2017
LGBT+ Club At My School
When I was in year 10, there was an LGBT+ club at my school which I went to every week. I had a lot of fun at this group and it was a wonderful place to go to for support. However, this club disappeared when I went into year 11. Now that I'm in year 12, I am allowed to set up my own club...so that's what I've done!
With the help of a few friends, we've set the club back up! The first meeting was today!
I'm looking forward to running this club for (hopefully) the next two years. I hope that I can leave a positive impact on the young LGBT+ people at my school. Maybe it could help me, too!
Thank you for reading and goodbye until next time! ~Jay
Friday, 27 October 2017
Asexual Stories!
(Content Warning: mention of sexual coercion)
For Asexuality Awareness Week (22nd to 28th of October 2017), I asked on Instagram for those on the asexual spectrum to submit their stories to me. I wanted to do this to show how diverse the asexual community can be and to bring awareness to the experiences of ace people and those on the ace spectrum.
This first story is from an anonymous submitter!
To start off, my sexuality is Demi-Bisexual. I came to that realization about six months ago after almost a year of soul-searching. I'm out to my counselor, my old debate coach and two friends who are part of the LGBT community. I go to a Catholic high school, and it's hard to feel accepted in my faith and with my friends. But I know that what I feel is valid, and that thought keeps me going. Being on the Ace spectrum, I do feel invisible sometimes. It's not exactly easy to have to explain my sexuality to people. Being Demi, to me, means that I don't feel sexual attraction unless I've formed a strong bond with said individual. In fact, I've only felt sexual attraction once, but that's another story for another day. And, yes, Demi Lovato is one of my favorite singers 😉
With the whole ace thing, I only really figured it out recently. I thought there was something wrong with me when I wasn't cool with doing things on first dates. I get a lot of dates, and I have been pressured into sex by ex boyfriends. But I am very assertive and I dealt with it. In year nine i came out as bi. It was strange, and I had a girlfriend at the time. It was only a romantic thing really. In year eleven I came out as a lesbian. But I started to realise I felt a weird attraction to my best friend, who I later fell in love with and had sex with. But it was for his pleasure only. We broke up after a while. When I started college, I looked back to everything and came to the conclusion, after seeing a post about it, that I was demisexual. But I guess homoromantic. When I moved 100 miles away from all my friends a few months ago, I met a girl and she brought to light that having dreams of having all sex characteristics of all sexes I know of frequently is a lil weird. So we talked and I discovered that I am gender queer or non binary. But I would want a penis. So I am genderqueer, demisexual, and I have a romantic and aesthetic preference for girls, and gender queer people. I have only told my tutors and a girl in my class this because I wanted them to call me by my preferred pronouns they/them/he/him literally anything but she it makes me feel a lil weird and uncomfortable. I don't know why but it's a lil weird that I'm only comfortable telling people that I'm a homo or queer person irl but it makes me cry when I try to tell people I'm ace or gender queer. Is it weird?
This third story is from @danielle.ramsay on Instagram
Being on the asexual spectrum has given me a lot of freedom in my experience of my sexuality.
I no longer feel confused or pressured to feel attracted to people, even my own partner. I do feel
attracted to my partner, but only once in a while and it only happened after a very long time of
being together. I understand why I’m uncomfortable with sex on television even if I enjoy it
myself. To me, identifying as demisexual and biromantic has allowed me to understand myself
better and be happy :)
The last story is by Lani, who is also from @us.ace.love.space
I have decided since a couple weeks ago to go with the label quoiromantic because I don’t want to go with Panromantic cause idk if I’m just confused yet I don’t like Heteromantic because I do find love in people of other/no gender. And with being Christian all this is just a big mess and some days I feel like I should never looked into all of this but I always get curious of my different thoughts and feelings/emotions ah people of different/no specific gender can be so loving I don’t know what to do. I’ve known I was asexual for almost 2 years. I have came out to most of my friends as gay ace and my Mom as asexual.
I’d like to go to pride one day with my friends :) it’ll be some years before that happens sadly
For Asexuality Awareness Week (22nd to 28th of October 2017), I asked on Instagram for those on the asexual spectrum to submit their stories to me. I wanted to do this to show how diverse the asexual community can be and to bring awareness to the experiences of ace people and those on the ace spectrum.
This first story is from an anonymous submitter!
To start off, my sexuality is Demi-Bisexual. I came to that realization about six months ago after almost a year of soul-searching. I'm out to my counselor, my old debate coach and two friends who are part of the LGBT community. I go to a Catholic high school, and it's hard to feel accepted in my faith and with my friends. But I know that what I feel is valid, and that thought keeps me going. Being on the Ace spectrum, I do feel invisible sometimes. It's not exactly easy to have to explain my sexuality to people. Being Demi, to me, means that I don't feel sexual attraction unless I've formed a strong bond with said individual. In fact, I've only felt sexual attraction once, but that's another story for another day. And, yes, Demi Lovato is one of my favorite singers 😉
The next story is from another anonymous submitter!
This third story is from @danielle.ramsay on Instagram
Being on the asexual spectrum has given me a lot of freedom in my experience of my sexuality.
I no longer feel confused or pressured to feel attracted to people, even my own partner. I do feel
attracted to my partner, but only once in a while and it only happened after a very long time of
being together. I understand why I’m uncomfortable with sex on television even if I enjoy it
myself. To me, identifying as demisexual and biromantic has allowed me to understand myself
better and be happy :)
Taylor from @us.ace.love.space on Instagram submitted this next story!
My name is Taylor, and I am an aromantic asexual. This means that I do not experience sexual attraction nor romantic attraction. I've known I was ace for about a year and a half, but I've only known I was aromantic for about six months. Before, I thought I was bisexual and then asexual and biromantic, because I misinterpreted no attraction as both attraction to girls and boys (which I've seen is actually quite common). I'm out to a few friends at school but not any of my family. Ironically, most of my friend group established prior to knowing I was ace and coming out is actually also ace or at least queer as well.
The last story is by Lani, who is also from @us.ace.love.space
I have decided since a couple weeks ago to go with the label quoiromantic because I don’t want to go with Panromantic cause idk if I’m just confused yet I don’t like Heteromantic because I do find love in people of other/no gender. And with being Christian all this is just a big mess and some days I feel like I should never looked into all of this but I always get curious of my different thoughts and feelings/emotions ah people of different/no specific gender can be so loving I don’t know what to do. I’ve known I was asexual for almost 2 years. I have came out to most of my friends as gay ace and my Mom as asexual.
I’d like to go to pride one day with my friends :) it’ll be some years before that happens sadly
Thank you to all of those who submitted stories! And thank you to everyone reading!
To everyone on the ace spectrum reading this: You're never alone and your identity is valid. There is nothing wrong with you. Happy Asexuality Awareness Week!
Goodbye until next time! ~Jay
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